The question of herpes dating is an important one. The first outbreak of a herpes infection may only last for a few weeks, but the implications of being infected extend further. So what happens if a person is infected with an STD like herpes? Below are some useful guidelines on how individuals can return to the dating scene and even interact with partners who are not infected.
- Understand that you’re not alone. Most individuals who first got diagnosed assume that herpes is a rare disease. It isn’t. There are millions of people infected with the disease and are still living healthy and sexually active lives. An estimated one in five people in U.S. has been infected at some point with the HSV-2 virus. Being diagnosed with herpes does not mean that a person’s dating life is over.
- For people who are dating an uninfected partner, it is vital that they take assertive steps towards reducing the risk of transmitting the virus to their partner. Discussing with a physician will provide one with a list of options. For instance, for the men, using condoms can help reduce an individual’s risks of transmitting the virus. Infected persons can also suppress the virus and reduce the likelihood of outbreaks as well as chances of transmission to their partner by taking daily antiviral medication. As a general rule, in the event of an active outbreak, any form of sexual contact should be avoided until one week after all the sores have healed.
- All too often, many people who are diagnosed with herpes end up remaining single or are ashamed of getting into an intimate relationship because of the negative stigma that is associated with the infection. Many men and women liken a herpes infection to being diagnosed with leprosy. This is a misguided and destructive line of thought. Before going back to dating, individuals will need to get pass this emotional issue. Instead of focusing on the negative of their condition, they should focus on growing as a person and improving their well-being. Counseling as well as support groups can help to re-establish any self-esteem issues as well help one live confident and healthy lives again.
- Before embarking on a intimate relationship, it is advised for the infected individuals to talk about his or her condition with their partners. Having ‘the talk’ will go a long way in ensuring that their partners are well informed and remain protected during the course of the relationship. For ‘the talk’ to be successful, individuals will need to have a firm understanding of the diseases as well as the risks involved. Partners should work together to ensure that each take the necessary precautions during any sexual activity.
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Ways To Tell Your Dating Partners You Have Herpes
The most challenging part of living with herpes is telling a potential dating or sexual partner that you have herpes, so let’s start with some ways you can use to disclose your condition to a prospective partner.
- Make use of STD advertisements on TV or YouTube as an opportunity to discuss or openly talk about sexually transmitted diseases and herpes. See an advertisement on STD testing? Make use of that to create an opening to have “the talk.”
- You may probably come across some articles or true stories that you read about sex and STDs in newspaper, magazines or the internet. Share the article and see how your partner feels and response to it. If the response is positive, you can use that as an opportunity to bring up the subject of having herpes.
- If you find it difficult to bring up the subject yourself, you can buy a book or print a pamphlet on herpes and ‘casually’ leave it in your car or coffee table. If you partner sees that, he or she will most likely ask you about it and why it is there. Once your partner has begin asking, use that opportunity to discuss about herpes and have “the talk.”
If you are still afraid or face difficulties telling your dating partner about your condition, there are also several online forums where you can visit to read about personal stories, get additional dating and relationship advice as well as find support. Some of the good ones are:
Online Herpes Dating
Don’t let herpes kill off your love life. Some individuals find dating with other individuals with the same condition helps them get back to the social scene and onto the road of emotional recovery. If that is the case, PositiveSingles.com is an online dating forum dedicated to singles that are infected with an STD.
According to national estimates, there are over 70 million people who are infected with at least one type of STD. The online dating community provides individuals with an effective way of meeting and relating with other people in similar circumstances.